Might a few stolen moments used to check a couple text messages have a deeper effect?
While more research is needed, the study suggests it might: Even low or seemingly normal amounts of tech-related interruption were associated with greater child behavior problems, such as oversensitivity, hot tempers, hyperactivity and whining…
Reserving certain times of the day or locations as being technology-free—such as mealtime or playtime right after work—may help ease family tensions caused by the modern blurring of outside worlds with home life, they say.
When a child decides to see what happens when she forgoes all socially acceptable behavior in favor of a tantrum, I think they’re trying to learn. It’s a strategy. The child may be trying to learn if you mean what you say, or if your limits aren’t really there. And that’s what this study says too.
Over the longer term, compromise ‘made all behavioural problems worse for the most oppositional toddlers’, the study’s authors Robert Larzerle and Sade Knowles found.
Reasoning, however, was most effective after two months for these children, despite being the least effective response immediately.
The authors wrote that they found it ‘surprising’ that reasoning worked in the end with ‘oppositional’ infants.
They wrote: ‘To our surprise, frequent use of reasoning decreases behavior problems subsequently with oppositional toddlers, even though it is the least effective response for immediate reduction of noncompliance.
Here’s something to consider.
Our intervention in this marvelous process is indirect; we are here to offer this life, which came into the world by itself, the means necessary for its development. And having done that, we must await its development with respect. — Dr. Montessori’s Own Handbook